Friday, 17 April 2015

How To Be More Confident - A Step-by-Step Process for Becoming Truly Confident

Blossom  into your true self.



Recipe to follow for confidence

How To Be More Confident - A clear-cut, easy-to-follow process for gaining solid confidence
that will transform your whole life.

Video Summary:
Those who lack confidence may feel the deficiency is so in-grained as to surely be innate.
In fact, confidence is something most of us are born with, before life steals it from us.
You can recover the confidence you lost, or thought you never had.
The key is to start with introspection about the situations in which your lack of confidence
becomes most pronounced. Try to identify the triggers for the issue,
and notice the patterns in your present life.

Then think back to your youth or childhood. Who told you that you weren't good enough,
or smart enough, or strong enough? What "limiting beliefs" did you adopt from those experiences? Have you learned to criticize yourself before anyone else has the chance? Do you crave other people's approval, even when telling others that you don't care what they think?

Positive affirmations, visualizations, mental rehearsal, plus bolstering body language,
can make vast strides in building your store of confidence.

Perhaps most important is to constantly stretch your comfort zone, a little at a time.
While success alone doesn't predict confidence, it certainly lubricates the process. Follow the steps in the recipe thoroughly and in the proper order to discover how much confidence you can grow.

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How the Education Establishment Supports Inequality


How the Education Establishment Supports Inequality

It’s often difficult to convince people how low the expectations are for working class kids can be in schools. I have a lot of anecdotes from a lot of schools. So many times I have been told that I cannot expect much from “kids like these”. I have been told that I haven’t understood that a school being slightly above average for the number of students on Free School Meals means I cannot expect students to spend a whole lesson learning. I have been told that kids from a particular area “don’t have parents like yours” and so will not care about how they do in school. More than anything, low standards of behaviour are excused on the basis that being disobedient and disruptive is normal for the working class. They simply don’t know any better. The ability of middle class teachers to paint anywhere with council housing as the ghetto,never ceases to amaze me. The worst possible home environment is assumed, again and again, even in schools where the parents evenings indicate that most parents are actually interested, aspirational and articulate.
Probably the most dangerous version of this caricature, is the idea that this difference between the classes requires a difference in the curriculum. It is accepted that academic subjects are fine for our children, and, incredibly, so is didactic teaching and the expectation that children can control themselves. But working class kids won’t be interested in any of that. If they are going to cooperate they must be given a curriculum that isn’t too full of content; that would just demotivate them. What working class kids is something to motivate them; something which does not assume they are capable of being interested in anything more than what they are already used to. The middle classes can have knowledge of all that is worthwhile; working class kids just need to be motivated by being told about matters that are relevant to their lives. Middle class kids can study poetry and nineteenth century novels; working class kids can study text messaging and reality TV.
The worst examples of this sort of snobbery were probably those during the early days of the free school movement. Activists who were desperate to prove free schools were selective struggled to find anything to indicate this in their admissions policies. So, instead, they looked at the curriculum. The claim was that an academic curriculum would deter working class parents from sending their kids to a school. 
So we saw arguments like these:
it is not uncommon for free schools to market themselves in various ways as appropriate mainly for abler and more middle class families … eg compulsory Latin, lack of vocational provision, focus exclusively on Russell Group as a destination, expensive uniform, religious tests and so on. [my emphasis]
Education for Everyone blog
Numerous studies have shown that languages are a class and gender thing. Children from lower socio-economic backgrounds are less likely to be encouraged to learn them by their parents, less likely to see the point of them and less likely to have parents at home who can help with their homework. It is a particular problem for boys, whose parents are more likely to encourage them in science than in languages.
…When [founder of the West London Free School, Toby] Young says that all children will have to learn Latin at Key Stage 3 (and either Latin or a modern language after that), he excludes the kids of parents for whom Latin is a frightening prospect. So much for comprehensive entry.
From The New Statesman
What we have is a bun fight for the middle-class aspirational children: we have lots of glossy prospectuses and PR in order to recruit the children that are most likely to do well.
“And I don’t buy this idea that admission is open to all. The minute you put Latin on the curriculum for the first few years or put pupils in stripey blazers, you will only recruit one kind of child, regardless of how many times you say your school is for everybody.”
Headteacher quoted in the Guardian
I had hoped that people were a bit more circumspect about their low expectations for working class kids these days. But just this week I was amazed to see the following gem on the ASCL website, reacting to the discrepancies in access to academic subjects across the country:
it seems to me that there’s a big assumption behind the gloomy tone of his comments and indeed of the BBC coverage; that the government’s prescription for improving social mobility was right after all. As far as I can see, the ‘MorGovian’ way to get more pupils from disadvantaged backgrounds into Russell Group universities is to ensure that all such pupils study ‘academic’ subjects – an EBacc compatible Key Stage 4 curriculum, for example – and that they aren’t incentivised to study ‘vocational’ subjects, as was the case under Labour.
I would have thought a better way of improving social mobility would be to ensure pupils from disadvantaged backgrounds get the best possible results from a curriculum that motivates and inspires them, whether that be ‘academic’ or ‘vocational’. The trick is to get the curriculum right for each individual. After all, success breeds success; youngsters are surely far more likely to want to keep on with this education thing if they’re doing well at it. Staying on in education (taking respected, high-value qualifications, I should add) is surely the best bet for ensuring long-term success in the labour market.
In fact, I can’t help wondering if the whole question of advantage and disadvantage is a big red herring here. Doesn’t aptitude matter more than social background? Shouldn’t we be more interested in guiding youngsters into the various curricular paths according to where their interests and prior attainment suggest they are most likely to succeed? Okay, a disproportionate number of disadvantaged pupils may have fallen behind by Year 9, but surely such students need intervention and support rather than a curriculum pathway which risks even further demotivation.
This was written by a headteacher on the blog of an organisation representing headteachers across the country. If headteachers are willing to argue in publicthat students from deprived backgrounds need a curriculum based around motivation rather than academic achievement, what chance do they have? The education establishment still firmly believe that what is appropriate for their children is far too demotivating for other people’s children.

https://teachingbattleground.wordpress.com/2015/03/01/how-the-education-establishment-supports-inequality/



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The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”


If You Are Underpaid, Read This!

Something missing?

If You Are Underpaid, Read This!

If it were payday and your paycheck hadn't made it to your bank account yet, 
you would call your Payroll department and ask them why not. 
You'd say "Was there a delay getting the paychecks out? 
I don't see my paycheck in my bank account, and I need it to pay some bills this weekend."
With luck, your colleagues in the Payroll department would take your concern seriously. 
Everybody has to get paid! 
You wouldn't hesitate to sound an alarm if your paycheck went missing one Friday. 
Yet many, if not most, working people are hesitant and fearful to tell their bosses "I'm underpaid!"
Lots of people are underpaid at work. 
The lousy economy gave employers a great excuse for underpaying their employees.
Sadly, many people took jobs at substandard pay levels, 
and haven't made it back to their market pay yet. Many of them have never asked for a raise.
They are waiting for their employers to bestow pay increases on them. 
That is a losing strategy!
No one is looking out for your career except for you. 
Where your pay is concerned, the same thing is true.  
How would your manager know you're underpaid if you don't say something about it? 
If you are underpaid but not egregiously so, you can talk to your boss about it like this:
BOSS: So Alan, you had a question for me? I got your voicemail.
YOU: Oh yes, thanks, Rosemary. Listen, I  know that our annual reviews aren't until June, 
so I wanted to put a bug in your ear way in advance. 
I'm hoping to see a bump in my pay level this year, 
since I took on the database project and now I'm doing Joslyn's job as well as my own. 
BOSS: I hear you, but Joslyn was just a part-timer...
YOU: That's true, but in terms of impact, if someone isn't running the backup schedule 
and the maintenance on our systems we'd be toast. 
I just wanted to get you thinking about it -- if the company is giving out three percent increases 
like last year I'm going to slip further behind the market and I don't want to do that. 
I like this job. I like working with you. I want to stay here. 
BOSS: Okay, I understand. What sort of raise are you looking for?
YOU: Well, a three percent raise would be about twenty-four hundred dollars, 
so if that could be six to seven thousand dollars instead, I'd be happy. 
We're only talking about a difference of forty-five to fifty-hundred dollars per year - not a huge sum.
BOSS: Could we split the difference?
YOU: Here's the question. Do you think I deserve to be paid the market rate for the work I do? 
BOSS: It's hard to get approval for more than the standard increase. Let me think about it.
Unless you are working at a minimum-wage job, getting a raise above the standard level 
is not usually something that you can accomplish in one conversation. 
You have to do your research, make your case, and keep at it.
You have to let your manager know that getting you to the appropriate pay level 
for your responsibilities is not a trivial matter, but a fundamental leadership activity.
If you are grossly underpaid, you can take a different approach. 
In that case, you'll back up the truck and have a broader conversation with your manager, 
because now you're not asking your manager to grant you a pay increase all by himself or herself.
Instead, you're asking him or her to campaign on your behalf with the higher-ups 
who will have to approve your salary upgrade. (If your boss is the CEO, that's a different story!)
Since your boss will be selling other people on your pay bump, you'll need to equip him or her
 to sell the idea of your pay raise to other people. This is called "Selling the seller."
First, you'll get your boss on board with the idea of keeping you happy -- and keeping you glued 
to your seat, especially now that the economy is getting better and jobs are more plentiful.
Once your boss is bought into the notion of improving your pay, 
then you and s/he can strategize about how to sell the idea of your pay increase to other leaders.
Here's the seven-step process for Selling the Seller 
when your boss will not be the only person who has to approve your pay increase.
Conduct your own research on market salaries using Payscale and Salary. 
Calculate (the best you can, using your knowledge of your organization 
and making assumptions the rest of the time) the  cost of the Business Pain you relieve for your employer. 
Often the cost of the pain you relieve dwarfs your actual salary, 
even when benefits are baked into it (adding about 40% to your employer's cost for having you around).
Create a one-year Roadmap for your position. What will you accomplish over the next 12 months at work? What big, expensive and annoying problems will you solve? 
How will you make a difference for your employer dollars-and-cents-wise, customer-satisfaction-wise 
and in other ways? Include your assumptions and calculations in your Roadmap (or as an addendum).
Propose a new salary level to accompany your Roadmap. 
You're asking your boss to sign up for both your 12-month  Roadmap and your new, beefed-up salary level. Here's what you get, Boss : these results! Here's what I get: my market compensation level. If there are other things you need (equipment or training, for instance), include those things in your Roadmap, too.
Invite your boss to a Roadmap Meeting to talk about your plan and your proposal. Walk through your proposed annual program with your boss, and share your salary expectation, too. Get your boss's reaction and feedback to your Roadmap. Until your boss agrees that you're due a salary increase, you'll be in selling mode. Once your boss is on board, then you and s/he are in selling mode together!
If your boss says "I'd like to give you a raise, but I can't do it," ask "How can we look forward to create a Roadmap that will get me to my salary goal over time?" Don't let your boss off the hook if his or her initial reaction is "No dice." If your boss can see you reaching your compensation goal by hitting various milestones, then what are those milestones and what timeframe are we talking about?
If your boss is completely against the idea of raising your pay, withdraw. That's fine. You've learned a lot of things at this job that you can carry with you to the next one. Thank your boss for his or her time. After work, go home and launch a stealth job search. With or without your hoped-for pay increase at your current job, your muscles are growing!

Questions and Answers

What if I can't find a closely comparable job to my job in Salary and Payscale?
Check these databases using other job titles that correspond or overlap with your job responsibilities. Keep in mind that not everything you do on the job is included in your written job description, if you have one!
You should get paid for what you deliver and for your positive effects on your employer, whether your contributions are described in your job description (or suggested by your job title) or not.

Are there good reasons for an employer to pay under-market pay rates -- for instance, if they have a great working atmosphere or good benefits?
Remember that the market pay level is the average of the rates other employers 
are paying their employees for similar jobs to yours. Real data sets the market. 
An employer whose message is "Look at the nice atmosphere here!
"We have a great culture. That's why we pay less than other employers do for similar positions"
 is not a Human Workplace. Benefits and working atmosphere are great things, 
but people deserve to be paid the market rate for their services, and there is no business or human justification for paying less than that rate -- not unless you've got an ownership stake in the company.


https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/you-underpaid-read-liz-ryan

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The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

How to Take Notes in Class: The 5 Best Methods



You need to know what you are doing to use one of these.





Outline method
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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Thursday, 16 April 2015

The Best Leaders Always Ask These Questions


The Best Leaders Always Ask These Questions

While exploring potential assignments near the end of my career with the U.S. Navy, 
I sought out advice from a trusted mentor.
“What’s your goal for the time you have remaining with the Navy?” 
he asked when we had a chance to sit down for a chat.
When I told him that wasn’t clear yet, he asked another question: “What do you enjoy most?”
 “That’s easy,” I told him. “Helping people unleash their potential.”
I’d had the privilege of doing that not only through teaching colleagues how to fly Navy planes 
but also by leading talented women and men in a variety of assignments over three decades.
“Is unlocking potential the kind of thing you want to focus on in your next job?” he asked.
“Now that you put it that way,” I told him, “I believe it is.”
He came back with one final question:
“Are your current actions and thinking leading you in that direction?”
I had to admit they were not.
That was a hard realization, and it set me on a new career path, drawing me away from flying 
and strategic planning and into education and leadership – first as superintendent of the U.S. Naval Academy, then as Chancellor of the State University of New York and now as president of the Center for Creative Leadership.
And it all started with a series of good questions that got right to the heart of things.
Voltaire said we should “judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers,” and that is never more true than in leadership roles. The most effective leaders are those who develop great diagnostic abilities and thus can cut through seemingly complicated situations and identify the levers that will really make a difference. They have insatiable curiosity, the humility to know they can and must learn every day, and awareness of their own limitations. They have the mindset of a coach, and coaching, as we’ve explored in the new Center for Creative Leadership Handbook of Coaching in Organizations, is not about dispensing advice. 
It’s about helping people tap into and act on their own knowledge.
These leaders – and I’ve been fortunate to work with and learn from many of them – understand they need the right information to make the right decisions. 
The only way to get it is by asking for it. Thoughtful questions open lines of communication with our teams, our organizations and, perhaps most importantly, ourselves.
Management pioneer Peter Drucker, a longtime hero of mine, posed The 5 Most Important Questions You Will Ever Ask About Your Organization: What is our mission? Who is our customer? What does our customer value? What are our results? What is our plan?
We also need to make time regularly to ask ourselves and our teams some critical questions. 
Like Drucker’s, these questions work best when they are simple. 
Here are the key questions that excellent mentors have always encouraged me to ask myself:
What are the most important big priorities you care about regarding your family, 
your organization and your community?
Are you investing time with the right people regarding these priorities?
What are you doing about each priority?
Why are you doing it?
How do you feel about it?
What would you like to do that you can’t do now?
What would your future 85-year-old self, looking back, say you should do?
And these are the core questions that I ask my teams because great leaders have often asked them of me:
What do I need to know about this issue/opportunity?
How do we make the most of this opportunity?
What do you think?
What might we be explaining away a little too quickly?
Is this really an either/or choice? What are we missing?
Effective leaders continually need to listen, reflect and learn. But they can’t do any of those things without asking the right questions first. What are the best questions you ask yourself or your team?
John R. Ryan is President and CEO of the Center for Creative Leadership, a top-ranked, global provider of leadership development.

 https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/best-leaders-always-ask-questions-john-ryan

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The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

How to Stop Believing You’re Not Good Enough

Whether or not these are good and healthy depends on your perspective - until you taste them.

How to Stop Believing You’re Not Good Enough
Rebecca Mckown
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. 
The mind is everything. What we think we become.” ~Buddha
Have you ever heard the phrase “your thoughts create your reality”? 
Have you ever wondered what this means?
Go back to your childhood and recall a time when you got into trouble. 
I am sure you have at least one of these memories. This doesn’t have to be a major event. 
It can just be a time where you were scolded for knocking over your drink.
Now remember your parents’ reaction. Were they angry or frustrated? 
Did they yell or give you an annoyed look? Did they send you to your room?
How did it make you feel? Most likely you felt like you did something really bad or that you were bad.
This feeling, multiplied by all your other similar experiences, created a belief within you. 
Through this belief you probably, without your knowledge, 
created a reality of being bad or not good enough.
Now fast forward to the present and watch these memories from a new perspective. 
Have your friends join in. What are your thoughts now? What reactions do they have?
Through different eyes, through different perspectives, we see and experience different realities.
Here is a personal experience of mine. I was maybe six or seven, 
and my family and I were sitting around the kitchen table frosting cookies. 
This was an annual event at our house. 
We had all the colors of the rainbow of sugary, spreadable, delectable frosting.
I was using the green frosting, spreading it oh so carefully on my cookie. 
When I was finished with the green I set the knife back into the frosting bowl. 
The knife, not secure in its vessel, tipped backward, 
sliding gracefully out of the bowl with a loud and splattering of green onto the linoleum floor.
I don’t remember exactly what my mother said but I do remember her being upset, 
and I remember feeling like I really messed up and ruined things for my mother 
and the rest of my family. 
This experience, along with other similar childhood situations, 
created a belief that if I did something wrong 
I would make someone angry or ruin a situation—essentially, I would be bad.
So what did I do? Whatever I could to not elicit a reaction, including staying silent.
Now we are going to fast-forward to the present. I can look back at this situation with new eyes. 
I didn’t do anything wrong. I didn’t ruin the situation, and my mother wasn’t mad at me or even angry.
The knife was too heavy and long for the shallow bowl, which caused it to tip. 
It was beyond my control.
My mother’s reaction was one of frustration not because of green frosting on her easily moppable floor, but probably because she had a long day taking care of four kids and a house 
and was stuck in an unhappy marriage.
Similar scenarios often happen to us as adults. I am a natural introvert. Walls are my friend.
In a crowd of people I usually remain in the shadows, merely observing the happenings around me. 
In my observations I will notice groups of people maybe glancing in my direction 
while continuing to talk.
My thoughts then go into super sensitive mode and create stories of being talked about. 
My thoughts go on an imaginative ride of insults and attacks, all on me, by those people across the way.
Now I feel attacked. I am no longer having fun. I no longer want to be where I am.
My thoughts created a false reality out of nothing. 
My thoughts had no basis in fact, yet they created a reality for me, true or not.
Perspective can change the reality of any situation. Really, what is reality but an experience? And if everyone has a different experience from a different perspective, then doesn’t that mean there isn’t just one reality? That reality results from the arbitrary thoughts of many people?
If we can acknowledge that each person’s thoughts and memories of a same experience are different, then can’t we admit that our thoughts of our experience are no more valid than the next person’s?
If we have formed opinions about ourselves through the eyes of our thoughts and we have concluded that thoughts have no basis in truth, then aren’t our opinions of ourselves based solely on our thoughts, not truth?
Is it possible to re-look at our thoughts and see them as just thoughts formed from different perspectives of memories?
Are you willing to redefine your opinion that you’re not good enough 
with re-formed thoughts of being more than enough?
Can you choose to see your thoughts as the controlling factor of your self-worth?
If you can acknowledge that they are arbitrary thoughts, then the reality formed by said arbitrary thoughts are no more valid than a stranger’s thoughts about you.
From here on out choose your thoughts wisely, because in some way they will be your reality.

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/change-reality-stop-believing-youre-not-good-enough/

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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”