Wednesday, 13 August 2014

Confidence: tips, advice and subliminal training

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This article shows the natural parallels to Turbo Charged Reading and these are printed in bold with the original article's information (oh dear, my sense of humour wants to say 'un-bold or fearful').

Building Self-Confidence                 Inbuilt with the logical steps of Turbo Charged Reading
Preparing Yourself for Success!      Purpose or reason-for is the foundation of success.
Build your self-confidence               Dealing with the self-confidence gremlins is a done deal.
p.s. When I posted this YouTube I didn’t need it myself as a TCR. (But! - At the end.)

James Manktelow & Amy Carlson.
From the quietly confident doctor whose advice we rely on, to the charismatic confidence
of an inspiring speaker, self-confident people have qualities that everyone admires.
Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives,
yet so many people struggle to find it. Sadly, this can be a vicious circle:
People who lack self-confidence can find it difficult to become successful.
M'reen: During the TCR course your Gremlins are quashed.
After all, most people are reluctant to back a project that's being pitched 
by someone who was nervous, fumbling, and overly apologetic.
On the other hand, you might be persuaded by someone who speaks clearly,
who holds his or her head high, who answers questions assuredly,
and who readily admits when he or she does not know something.
Self-confident people inspire confidence in others: their audience, their peers, their bosses,
their customers, and their friends. And gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways
in which a self-confident person finds success.
M'reen: TCR your programme manuals, course work etc.
The good news is that self-confidence really can be learned and built on.
And, whether you’re working on your own self-confidence 
M'reen: TCR and absorb and so naturally live all your self-help books
or building the confidence of people around you, it’s well-worth the effort!
M'reen: Your success with Turbo Charged Reading breeds long term success
in many other areas of your life.

How Confident do you Seem to Others?
Your level of self-confidence can show in many ways: your behavior, your body language,
how you speak, what you say, and so on. Look at the following comparisons
of common confident behavior with behavior associated with low self-confidence.
Which thoughts or actions do you recognize in yourself and people around you?
Low Self-Confidence
Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize you for it.
Governing your behavior based on what other people think.
Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile to achieve better things.
Staying in your comfort zone, fearing failure, and so avoid taking risks.
Admitting your mistakes, and learning from them.
Working hard to cover up mistakes and hoping that you can fix the problem before anyone notices.
Waiting for others to congratulate you on your accomplishments.
Extolling your own virtues as often as possible to as many people as possible.
Accepting compliments graciously. “Thanks, I really worked hard on that prospectus. I’m pleased you recognize my efforts.”
Dismissing compliments offhandedly. “Oh that prospectus was nothing really, anyone could have done it.”
As you can see from these examples, low self-confidence can be self-destructive,
and it often manifests itself as negativity. Self-confident people are generally more positive –
they believe in themselves and their abilities, and they also believe in living life to the full.

What is Self-Confidence?
Two main things contribute to self-confidence: self-efficacy and self-esteem.
(Wikipedia: Self-efficacy is the extent or strength of one's belief in one's own ability 
to complete tasks and reach goals. I understand this as confidence; confidence in 
your ability to ‘ride-a-bike’ and self esteem in your right to be able-to-ride-a-bike.)
We gain a sense of self-efficacy when we see ourselves (and others similar to ourselves) 
mastering skills and achieving goals that matter in those skill areas. This is the confidence that, 
if we learn and work hard in a particular area, we'll succeed; and it's this type of confidence 
that leads people to accept difficult challenges, and persist in the face of setbacks.
M'reen: Practice makes perfect, with TCR your practice is incremental, provable at each stage and supported by a carefully designed programme that enhances your ability to use 
your body, mind and energy in harness for your assured progress to the level of success that is appropriate at this time with the long term ability to gain even more. 
To this end the TCR success levels are detailed and repeated as MP3s(notes)
with additional Gremlin busting MP3(+) providing skills to be used in all areas of life.

This overlaps with the idea of self-esteem, which is a more general sense that we can cope
with what's going on in our lives, and that we have a right to be happy. Partly, this comes from
a feeling that the people around us approve of us, which we may or may not be able to control.
However, it also comes from the sense that we are behaving virtuously, that we're competent
at what we do, and that we can compete successfully when we put our minds to it.

Some people believe that self-confidence can be built with affirmations and positive thinking.
At Mind Tools, we believe that there's some truth in this, but that it's just as important to build
self-confidence by setting and achieving goals – thereby building competence.
Without this underlying competence, you don't have self-confidence: 
you have shallow over-confidence, with all of the issues, upset and failure that this brings.
M'reen: I think that ‘affirmations’ are often used as a magic formula 
and that ‘positive thinking’ can lead to guilt trips. 
Therefore when Turbo Charged Reading any purpose/reason-for statements
these are checked to see if they are compatible with your life beliefs, 
as if not so then your protective gremlins will not allow your desired success.
Therefore these blocks are sought, recognised and then dealt with 
using energy skills that you can take into other areas of your life.

Building Self-Confidence
So how do you build this sense of balanced self-confidence, 
founded on a firm appreciation of reality?
The bad news is that there’s no quick fix, or five-minute solution.
The good news is that building self-confidence is readily achievable, just as long as you have
the focus and determination to carry things through. And what’s even better is that the things
you’ll do to build self-confidence will also build success – after all, your confidence
will come from real, solid achievement. No-one can take this away from you!
So here are our three steps to self-confidence, for which we’ll use the metaphor of a journey: preparing for your journey; setting out; and accelerating towards success.
M'reen: When TCR, a novice takes six minutes to pour 2-300 pages into their innermind 
to be processed and bring forth the level of recall required at that time 
with the rest ready for a higher level recall if wanted. 
This information is programmed for long term memory of desired and/or spontaneous recall. That is why I use a space-hopper to describe this journey

Step 1: Preparing for Your Journey
The first step involves getting yourself ready for your journey to self-confidence.
You need to take stock of where you are, think about where you want to go, get yourself in the right mindset for your journey, and commit yourself to starting it and staying with it.

In preparing for your journey, do these five things:

Look at What You've Already Achieved
Think about your life so far, and list the ten best things you've achieved in an "Achievement Log." Perhaps you came top in an important test or exam, played a key role in an important team, 
produced the best sales figures in a period, did something that made a key difference
in someone else’s life, or delivered a project that meant a lot for your business.
Put these into a smartly formatted document, which you can look at often.
And then spend a few minutes each week enjoying the success you’ve already had!
Think About Your Strengths
Next, use a technique like SWOT Analysis to take a look at who and where you are. Looking at your Achievement Log, and reflecting on your recent life, think about what your friends would consider to be your strengths and weaknesses. From these, think about the opportunities and threats you face.
Make sure that you enjoy a few minutes reflecting on your strengths!
Think About What's Important to You, and Where you Want to Go
Next, think about the things that are really important to you,
and what you want to achieve with your life.
Setting and achieving goals is a key part of this, and real self-confidence comes from this.
Goal setting is the process you use to set yourself targets, 
and measure your successful hitting of those targets.
Inform your goal setting with your SWOT Analysis.
Set goals that exploit your strengths, minimize your weaknesses, realize your opportunities,
and control the threats you face.
And having set the major goals in your life, identify the first step in each.
Make sure it’s a very small step, perhaps taking no more than an hour to complete!
M'reen: My goodness you could TCR a number of books deep into your innermind 
in an hour. It tool me 22 minutes to TCR 5 books containing 2012 pages, as these were new books the pages didn't turn easily. My innermind would need 20 minutes to overnight to work on this material before I brought it back into my conscious, working, mind.
How much do you charge for an hour of your services?
An hour of each word reading is costing you that much!
And how much of what you've just read can you use and remember?
Start Managing Your Mind
At this stage, you need to start managing your mind. 
Learn to pick up and defeat the negative self-talk which can destroy your confidence.
And Then Commit Yourself to Success!
The final part of preparing for the journey is to make a clear and unequivocal promise 
to yourself that you are absolutely committed to your journey, 
and that you will do all in your power to achieve it.
If as you’re doing it, you find doubts starting to surface, write them down 
and challenge them calmly and rationally. If they dissolve under scrutiny, that’s great. 
However if they are based on genuine risks, 
make sure you set additional goals to manage these appropriately.
Either way, make that promise!
Self-confidence is about balance. At one extreme, we have people with low self-confidence.
At the other end, we have people who may be over-confident.
If you are under-confident, you’ll avoid taking risks and stretching yourself; 
and you might not try at all. And if you’re over-confident, you may take on too much risk, 
stretch yourself beyond your capabilities, and crash badly. 
You may also find that you’re so optimistic that you don’t try hard enough to truly succeed.
Getting this right is a matter of having the right amount of confidence, founded in reality
and on your true ability. With the right amount of self-confidence, you will take informed risks, 
stretch yourself (but not beyond your abilities) and try hard.

So How Self Confident Are You?
Take our short quiz  to find out how self-confident you are already,
and start looking at specific strategies to improve your confidence level.

Step 2: Setting Out
This is where you start, ever so slowly, moving towards your goal.
By doing the right things, and starting with small, easy wins, you’ll put yourself on the path to success – and start building the self-confidence that comes with this.
Build the Knowledge you Need to Succeed
Looking at your goals, identify the skills you’ll need to achieve them. And then look at how you can acquire these skills confidently and well. Don’t just accept a sketchy, just-good-enough solution – look for a solution, a program or a course that fully equips you to achieve what you want to achieve and, ideally, gives you a certificate or qualification you can be proud of.
Focus on the Basics
When you’re starting, don’t try to do anything clever or elaborate.
And don’t reach for perfection – just enjoy doing simple things successfully and well.
Set Small Goals, and Achieve Them
Starting with the very small goals you identified in step 1, get in the habit of setting them,
achieving them, and celebrating that achievement. Don’t make goals particularly challenging
at this stage, just get into the habit of achieving them and celebrating them.
And, little by little, start piling up the successes!
Keep Managing Your Mind
Stay on top of that positive thinking, keep celebrating and enjoying success, 
and keep those mental images strong. 
You can also use a technique like Treasure Mapping to make your visualizations even stronger!
And on the other side, learn to handle failure. Accept that mistakes happen when you’re trying something new. In fact, if you get into the habit of treating mistakes as learning experiences,
you can (almost) start to see them in a positive light.
After all, there’s a lot to be said for the saying “if it doesn’t kill you, it makes you stronger!”

Step 3: Accelerating Towards Success
By this stage, you’ll feel your self-confidence building. You’ll have completed some of the courses 
you started in step 2, and you’ll have plenty of success to celebrate!
This is the time to start stretching yourself.
Make the goals a bit bigger, and the challenges a bit tougher. Increase the size of your commitment.
And extend the skills you’ve proven into new, but closely related arenas.

Tip 1:
Keep yourself grounded – this is where people tend to get over-confident and over-stretch themselves. And make sure you don’t start enjoying cleverness for its own sake…
Tip 2:
If you haven't already looked at it, use our How Self Confident Are You? quiz to find out 
how self-confident you are, and to identify specific strategies for building self-confidence.
As long as you keep on stretching yourself enough, but not too much, you'll find your self-confidence building apace. What's more, you'll have earned your self-confidence – because you’ll have
put in the hard graft necessary to be successful!
Goal setting is arguably the most important skill you can learn to improve your self-confidence.

Key Points
Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives,
and people who lack it can find it difficult to become successful.
Two main things contribute to self-confidence: self-efficacy and self-esteem.
You can develop self-confidence with these three steps:
Prepare for your journey.
Set out on your journey.
Accelerate towards success.
Goal setting is probably the most important activity that you can learn 
in order to improve your self-confidence.

When I posted this YouTube to Turbo Charged Reading I didn’t need it myself as a TCR.
However, I’ve later come across a situation where I don’t feel that confident
and so I wish to gain the confidence I need in this area in order to make the progress I desire.

What this list means to you is personal to you at this point in your life.
Just because you understand and accept one point
does not mean that the next person will resonate with it in the same way.
The list is copied from the youtube and you would read the statements
using the personal pronoun, ' I '.

Using my pendulum: Do I believe I am (the list below)?
Out of 52 statements incorporated in the Confidence Theta YouTube
my innermind accepted 34
but my conscious mind tells me that some of the others are unrealistic.
So I’ll see how in the next days of listening (theta) and watching (subliminals) this YouTube
benefits me.
Actually I didn't follow the expected pattern of listening and watching.
I listened to the YouTube multiple times while working on the computer
and the following day I believed the 18 statements left from the day before.
Interestingly, my ego still doesn't consciously believe some of them
however if I re-frame them (understand them in a different light)
I find them to be acceptable.
This was posted on 13/08/14 and I accessed it on 12/11/14
so I thought I might as well check to see if my beliefs about myself were still true
and I checked positive for each belief.
For argument's sake, if you come back and re-check and find that you are no longer confident
with one of these 'I' statements; it does not mean that 'it' hasn't worked
it simply means that you have had the confidence to allow another aspect to arise to be worked on - congratulations.

You are confident and in control.
You totally trust yourself
You make things happen.
You always know what to say, and you say it.
You radiate love and happiness.
You have special talents.
You are worthy of your dream.
When you speak people stop and listen.
You know what you want and you ask for it.
People respect your wisdom.
You seek out and conquer new challenges.
You are important to this world.
You are brilliant and everyone notices.
You only need approval from yourself and you have it.
Your possibilities are endless.
You are worthy of great love.
You make quick, good decisions.
You believe in yourself.
You accomplish many great things.
You have power over your life.
You are important.
You choose what to accept or dismiss in your life.
You feel and speak confidently.
You know what needs to be done and you do it.
People are drawn to your positive energy.
You are confident and dependable.
You take responsibility for yourself.
You always shine with knowing.
You are safe, loved and protected.
You like yourself more and more each day.
You carry yourself with dignity.
You are a cause for change.
Your inner dialogue is of confidence and determination.
You are naturally confident.
No one can challenge your confidence.
You take what you want from life.
You are a rock. People are drawn to your strength.
You glow with fierce confidence.
You easily control situations.
You are attractive to people inside and out.
You are a winner, always.
Your inner core is strength and confidence.
Everyone accepts you for what you are.
You are a clear and focussed.
You deserve to have your desires fulfilled.
You speak with ease and confidence.
Everyone loves and accepts you.
You are kind, just and fair.
You have much to teach about living to the fullness.
You give yourself permission to be amazing.                                                                                           You can handle anything.

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You can TCR software and engineering manuals for spontaneously recall – or pass that exam.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
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